Tuesday, May 10, 2011

The Best Advice a Father Can Give by Matt Furey

It hit me like a ton of bricks.

I couldn't believe I'd missed it before. I'd read the book
many, many times - but this time was different. A secret was
revealed to me - and today I'm going to give it to you.

If you are open and receptive to what you are about to read,
you can expect a major breakthrough.

Here it is:

"Psychologist David Seabury says that the best piece of advice
his father ever gave him was to practice positive mental
imagery - immediately and 'on cue,' so to speak, whenever he
became aware of negative feelings. Negative feelings literally
defeated themselves by becoming a sort of 'bell' which set off
a conditioned reflex to arouse positive states of mind."

Now read that passage again. It comes from the 35-million-copy
bestseller, Psycho-Cybernetics. Pay particular attention to
the words "the best piece of advice his father ever gave him."
Why? Because whenever something is "the best piece of advice"
someone can give you - especially your father - you know it's
got to be good.

In reading this passage, I not only see it as the best advice
I can give my son - but myself, and everyone I teach at my
seminars and in my coaching programs.

Many people wonder why I am always so calm, cool, and
collected. Many wonder how I am able to speak before a crowd
in such a nonchalant, totally relaxed way and still have
everyone totally riveted.

It's mostly because I have no thoughts of resistance when I
speak. I'm not concerned about offending anyone. I'm not even
trying to get people to like me. I am simply ME, take it or
leave it.

Very few people are like this. They're always trying to figure
out how to get others to approve of them or like them. Not
good. Because the more you NEED others to like you the less
they will like you.

Same goes with money. The more you NEED it, the more it will
stay away from you. Money and friends go where they are wanted
- not where they are needed. There is a world of difference
between want and need. One attracts. The other repels.

Want comes from a vibration of "I'm happy already and I'd like
to have this, too." Need comes from a vibration of "I'm
miserable and frustrated and I need this thing to make me

Become aware of negative NEED feelings when they arise. And
when they do, learn, through practice, to have those feelings
immediately trigger the thought to change your vibration into
a "feel good" one.

Most people have never been taught to do this by their fathers
- or by anyone else. They've been taught to set goals, to have
a burning desire, to be optimistic and have a positive

But what do you do when you look at the state of your finances
and you feel bad? What do you do when the reality of your
situation begins to ruin your day? What do you do when you're
feeling frustrated, fearful, and worried? You do what Dr.
Seabury's father told him to do... and what I'm telling you
to do.

First, you "recognize" that you are feeling bad.

Second, you understand that this "feel bad" vibration REPELS
what you say you want. Your want is not a want. It's a need
that comes with the expectation that something outside of
yourself will make you happy.

Third, you recognize that this "feel bad" imagery sends a
signal to the Universe that you cannot be happy "for no
particular reason." And that's not good.

There is a balancing act between having a burning desire and
having a desire that burns you.

Having a burning desire creates the necessary mindset that
will attract the thing you want. On the other hand, if the
desire is connected to "I'm miserable unless I have this thing"
- then you are chasing success and that success will always
run faster than you do.

Your objective is to attract success, not chase it. Chasing
success is repelling success. You never get what you are

Several years ago, a man sent me an e-mail in which he accused
me of "chasing the almighty dollar." He was wrong. At that
point in my life, I couldn't even form a mental image of
myself doing what he said I was doing.

When I did chase the almighty dollar - and I did it for years
- I had no money. When I stopped chasing and learned to
attract it, it flowed into my life so fast I was nearly
knocked over.

The forces of attraction and repulsion are always at play.
Whether you attract more than you repel or repel more than you
attract is simply a matter of how strong those forces are. If
your repelling energy is stronger, you go deeper into debt. If
your attraction energy is stronger, you get wealthier. If both
are equally strong, you feel "stuck."

Now the question is... what do you do if you are repelling
more than you're attracting?

The answer:

1. You change the way you feel by changing the mental
picture you have of your situation.

Every time you feel a negative emotion, you sound the alarm in
your head. "Uh, oh. Not good. Change the mental picture to a
positive one." You do this over and over, and before long the
feel-bad vibe lasts less than a second and you're back to
feeling good.

2. You begin each day with exercises that help you go
through the whole day without resistance.

You don't just read inspirational messages and books. You
stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself what you want.
You picture what you want when you speak. You recall previous
successes and link them to your future.

3. You have a burning desire in mind, a goal.

You don't expect the goal to give you happiness. You don't let
the desire for it burn you by feeling bad that you don't yet
have it. In fact, even though you WANT the goal, you are able
to "walk away" from it emotionally. If, for example, you want
more money - you don't expect more money to give you
happiness. You simply want more money - and you put yourself
into happiness mode NOW.

If you're happy even though you don't yet have in your
possession the thing you want - then you are attracting it
to you.

If you're unhappy because you don't yet have in your
possession the thing you NEED - then you are repelling it.

So get happy NOW.

Recognize that fear, frustration, and angst are only there to
help you change course. They're there to help you see that
your mental picture is off-target. Put the right mental image
back onto the screen of your mind and watch how the Universe
lines things up in your favor.

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Is It Time to Rethink Your Career by Brian Tracy

A great number of people spend their lives doing something they
don't enjoy during the week, always looking forward to the
weekend. They refer to Monday as "Blue Monday" and to
Wednesday as "Hump Day." At the end of the week, they say
"Thank God It's Friday!"

These are men and women with very little in the way of a future.
They look upon their jobs as a form of drudgery, a penance they
have to pay in order to enjoy their free time. And because of this
attitude, they have trouble making progress.

They stay pretty much where they are, always wondering why
other people seem to be living the good life while they feel like
they are living a life of quiet desperation.

At my seminars, people frequently ask me what they can do to
be more successful. In almost every case, they are working at
a job they don't like, for a boss they don't particularly respect,
producing or selling products or services for customers they
don't care about. And many of them think that if they just hang
in there long enough, the clouds will part and everything will get
better for them.

But in order to advance -- in order to move up to more difficult,
more interesting, and higher-paid positions -- you must become
extremely good at what you are doing right now. If you don't have
the desire to be very good at your job, that means you are probably
in the wrong one.

Too many people do their work in a mediocre way, with the idea
that, when the right job comes along, then they will really work
hard. But the right job never comes along. They are always passed
over for promotions. They are always the last ones hired and the
first ones laid off.

What about you? Are you in the right job?

Be honest with yourself. Ask yourself what you would like to do if
you only had six months left to live. What would you choose to do
if you won a million dollars in the lottery tomorrow? What sort of
work would you do if you were absolutely guaranteed of success
in your field? If there were no limits on your abilities and
opportunities -- if you had no debts, no problems, no
commitments -- what would be your ideal career?

Research shows that the things people liked to do between the
ages of 7 and 14 were a very good indicator of what they would
be most successful at as adults.

A man at one of my seminars told me that when he was 7 he
loved to build model airplanes. As he got older, he built more
and more complicated planes. By the time he was 14, he was
building them with engines and flying them in contests.

Today, he is 35 years old. He has a degree in aeronautical
engineering. He designs small aircraft. In addition, he owns
an aircraft maintenance company and an air charter firm. He is
a multi-millionaire, and he feels like he has never worked a
day in his life. He has always done what he loved to do from
the time he was a boy.

If you're not sure of your true calling, ask the people closest to
you. Ask them, "What do you think would be the very best thing
for me to do with my life?" It is amazing how the people around
you -- your spouse, your best friends, your parents -- can clearly
see what you should be doing when you cannot see it yourself.

Project yourself forward five years, and imagine that your entire
life is perfect in every respect. Imagine that you are doing exactly
the right job for you, in exactly the right place, with exactly the
right people, and earning exactly the amount you want to earn.

What would that look like? Where would you be, and what would
you be doing? Who would you be with, and how would you have

When you have that picture in your head, think about the steps
you would have to take to get from where you are today to
where you want to be in five years. What skills would you have
to develop? What information would you have to acquire? What
obstacles would you have to overcome?

Success comes from being excellent at what you do. The market
pays excellent rewards only for excellent performance. It pays
average rewards for average performance, and below-average
rewards for below-average performance.

All really successful and happy people know in their hearts
that they are very good at what they do. And if you are doing
what you really love and enjoy, if you are following your true
calling, you will know it too.